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With every life experience comes new opportunities to learn. Yes, I am afraid you will be hearing about my pending hip surgery and the lessons I am learning.  Right now, I am managing to get around our house with a walker. I was doing it with a cane and having a lot of pain with every movement.  A friend offers the loan of a walker and I take the load of the bad hip and I am doing better. This will hold me through to the surgery and after for a couple of weeks.

During this time there is definitely challenges with loss of control. For instance, last week I thought I could drive myself to my hairdresser. The parking is close, and I could make it. I did do it but getting into the car on the driver’s side versus getting in the passenger’s side makes a big difference.  More pain when I have to bring the bad one in last. I realized that I am needing to let myself be driven around.

Oh, and yes, I have to use a wheelchair in the hospital when I go for tests. First time ever in a wheelchair. A lot of changes for me in a relatively short period of time.  My first inclination is to get upset and all bent out of shape because I have to depend on someone else. This is a big lesson for me. It is ok to ask for help and to let others do for you!

I am also realizing how “picky” I am for the little things…like doing the wash! I usually fold my clothes directly out of the dryer but since I have three steps to go down to the laundry area, I let Doug do it for me. Grabs the clothes puts them in a basket and brings them to me. Better than not having clean clothes right? Another thing is doing the dishes after a meal or when the dish washer finishes.  I really like to get the dishes done right away but when that can’t happen, I am avoiding the kitchen! So, what if it is not done my way!  It gets done.  And then there are the bits on the floor that need a sweep; they are not going anywhere. Until I slowed down and had no choice, I did not realize how picky I actually am. Dr. William Glasser told me along time ago. Pick your battles. Ask yourself, what is most important, these little things that seem big or your relationship?

I am learning to adapt my pictures of how I want things to be. I do not want to wear out my person! So, what if it is not done the way I do it!  I have a choice, accept the help and be grateful or make demands and be miserable.  It is not about whether I can control it or not, it is about how I manage my loss of control in these situations. I have options and I always have personal control of how I choose to handle my life.

I have a new appreciation for my life and all the people in it. I am grateful to have all the support around me that I do.  Stay tunes for more lessons through this journey with me.

 

Wallow or swallow

Wallow or Swallow?

 

Yesterday, I spent my usual Wednesday afternoon with my craft buddies. Most of us are retired nurses.  We do our crafts and we care and support one another. I have not been writing many blogs or e-mails all summer because I have been dealing with a great deal of pain in my hip.

As we shared together, we talked about dealing with our issues. I was reminded of my father who live with arthritis his entire life from his early twenties until his mid-nineties. Every once in a while, he would push his lazy boy chair back and say: “mind over matter”. He used the power of his mind to help control the pain. This is a lesson that I am forever grateful for.

Thank-fully, I have known that it is important for me to manage my pain and not let the pain manage me. What we focus on expands! Is it difficult? Yes it can be.  Does the pain win sometimes? Yes, but I refuse to let it stop me from pushing through and living my life. There is always someone who is worse off than me!

Hence, the words “wallow” or “swallow” are written here. I can choose to wallow in self- pity, or I can swallow it up and do everything I can to help myself. When I attend my craft group and other activities, I am swallowing it up to do something I enjoy that also distracts me. I am aware  that everyone has their own story.

It is not pleasant to endure this kind of pain but my body is sending me a huge message to take care of it. There are lots of issues as we age. How we deal with them is up to us.

What is most important in all of this is that you advocate for your own health. Only you know when your body is off, but you only know this if you listen to the signals it gives you. Pain is one of those signals.

Do you listen to your body? It is one of the things I will be able to speak to when my new coaching program starts in the near future. Stay tuned!

 

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

 

 

Balance for Anxiety

 

 

Suddenly this past spring we were told to stay at home! The only place one could go was to get essential services like groceries. This meant that many employees were sent home to work from home. It meant that many of us that have meetings outside our workplace, had more time because we did not spend that time travelling.

I realize that what I did was fill my time up with a lot of activities. Oh boy, I have lots of extra time. I can join an extra toastmaster’s club! Oh! I can join this webinar and that webinar. I can give more energy to my volunteer work with Glasser Canada and others.

Well, guess what? I overloaded myself. I needed to take a break and reassess where I am and what I want to do. This is something that I know all too well. It is very easy to fill our time and not so easy to find more time. After all, we all have only 24 hours in a day. 

Summer arrived and I found myself wanting to take a break. I stopped writing.  After much reflection, I know that I need to reclaim doing what I love to do and drop some of the add in’s in my life. Because I work as a coach and a counselor, I know there are a lot of people who have done the same thing. A lot of people are working with more stress and anxiety and even trust issues in their lives.

If you need someone to help you get organized in a new way, to act as your sounding board, contact me and set up an appointment. As a counsellor, I can offer an appointment on a Private Zoom contact. My counselling services are now covered by some insurance companies.

On another note, I am in the process of setting up a new group coaching program. Empowering Relationships Inner Circle will be starting again later in the fall. I want to have a program so that more people can get the services they need.

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

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Today I will experience some semblance of normalcy. Is that even possible? What is “normal” anyway. People talk about the “new normal.” Does that even exist?

What is “normal?”  The dictionary says normal means conforming to a standard, typical or expected.  The usual, average or typical state or condition. If ever there was a general definition this is it.  I think in these times both with COVID and the Racism that is rampant right now, it is very difficult to come up with what is normal. I have an appointment today that was part of my life before COVID and I look forward to it and although I can say it is returning to normal, it really is not, as things have changed and will continue to evolve.

Some things are normal, like stages of development. How we typically grow or even plant a garden. For the big picture in the world, I think we need to focus on peace and kindness. As I was thinking about kindness last evening, I asked myself, do we as a society even know what kindness is? 

This is very much a time in our lives that relationship skills are needed. As my mentor and teacher Dr. William Glasser said we as a society have moved leaps and bounds with technology but very little has been done to teach about relationships. He created the graph that spoke to this. In fact as I think about it, the graph looked like a spike right off the chart for technology and relationship education/skills looked like the flattened curve that we all have become so familiar with.

What do we want as a society? Do we want more peace and kindness and yes, even resiliency? The teaching we do with Choice Psychology is just that. It is all about relationships and how to get along better in the world. If you are a continuous learner and you would like to help the world become a better place, then sign up for our next training. It starts Thursday, June 18 at 1pm Atlantic. ( time may be adjusted). www.choicetheoryonline.com

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz