Moncton Reality Therapy Consultants

Creating a world where people experience "Happy Relationships"

We have been mired in a heat wave for some time now. This is really great for our tourism industry here in New Brunswick. Yesterday we were to have several thunder storms that did not materialize but we did have the rain. My planters and grass and garden were grateful to get the rain.

My perennials are growing like crazy. When I planted that garden, I did so because I am not really a gardener but over the years I have enjoyed looking after these plants. This year, however, has been different. I really am not a fan of the high heat and it does not really cool off until after dark so my plants are growing fast and furious without much care!

It is kind of like business, we can grow fast and furious and not pay too much attention to what is really happening. It is all fun and exciting until one day you realize that you have know idea where you are going. You have done created any goals and you are beginning to feel like you are on overload.

You know you need to do something but you are stifled. It is like my plants. I know they need to be trimmed and I want to do it but I am feeling held hostage by the heat. I have a choice, I could call my lawn care folks and let them do the job for me, which makes total sense because I have enough to do or I can let them continue to grow out of control, which is going to be a bigger problem down the road.

The same is true when you are an entrepreneur or when you have some important things that you want to accomplish. Is it worth taking a step back and hiring a coach to help you get on track? What could a coach do for you? An effective coach is a good listener and will ask great questions to help you dig deeper and find your own inner resources. Sometimes we just need that person in our court!

I don’t speak about this very often, but I am a Certified Personal and Executive Coach and I member of the International Coach Federation and I accept a limited amount of coaching clients per year. Yes, I can offer this online. If I can be of service to you, just contact me via my e-mail and we could set up a brief conversation to see if we are a good fit. This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Yours in growing awareness




It was such a pleasant morning and after an accountability call, with the clear air, I took some time to reflect. I was going back to Dr. William Glasser’s 1965 edition of Reality Therapy and at that time he wrote that it was a therapy to move people toward reality.

It is interesting when one hears the term Reality Therapy the first thing that they say to me is : “ you mean get real?”   Yes, in all honestly that is exactly it. But what does it mean to get real.

Over the last thirty years the ideas have evolved and even in 1965 Dr. Glasser was writing about what appears to most of us as “ crazy behavior” is an individual’s attempt to find a behavior to meet their needs.

Fast forward to 2018, we a still understand that all anyone is trying to do is meet their own needs. Minimally, we need a good relationship with at least one person in our lives.

With his book, Choice Theory, he gave us an explanation of the “ how and why we behave”. He explains the needs and behavior in great detail. The reality therapy became known as Counseling, Coaching, Teaching. Parenting, Managing with Choice Theory.

Choice Theory explains why what we are doing or not doing is working or not working for us. We have specific procedures that lead to change. In 1965, Dr. Glasser emphasized the need to create a good relationship with the person we are helping. He never swayed from that his entire life. So this is the first procedure to be aware of. If you cannot trust the person you are working with, how effective will it be?

To me it’s logical.   We emphasize the procedures that lead to change in our training programs. When you complete even the Basic Intensive you will have a basic understanding of how and why we do what we do and you will have learned the procedures that lead to change.

Consider joining me August 14,15, 16 for my next Basic Intensive. Learn more and sign up here: www.choicetheorytraining.com



Most problems are relationships problems. Have you noticed this? Stop for a minute and think about the times in your life when you have been most upset. What was the situation? What was the thing you were most upset about? Was it something you had control over?

What people were involved? Was it someone close to you or not so close? Was it an important relationship in your life? What behavior did you choose to deal with the issue? Maybe there was not another person involved but maybe the relationship was with yourself and the self-talk you were delivering to you!

In nearly all cases there is a relationship issue somewhere and in a lot of cases it is because we want someone to do something they do not want to do or maybe they want us to do something we do not want to do or just maybe we both want each other to do something that neither of us wants to do. Sometimes we are forcing ourselves to do something mainly to please someone else!

These are the four areas of most relationship problems. If there is one thing I have learned, it is important to look at those areas that affect you directly and find a way to communicate what you want so it does not affect the relationship, which is what you have between you.

Some people in relationships are just destructive or toxic and we will need to discriminate between the two. We will need to ask if this person adds to or takes away from what we have between us, the relationship. Sometimes it is in the best interest of you and the relationship to just let the toxic person go.

This is something that we discuss in our training and there are tools for dealing with such issues. We learn the communication process that helps us get more of what we need and want. Consider joining us May 2,3,4 for in person training in Riverview, New Brunswick. www.choicetheorytraining.com

Can’t come to Riverview? Then you can join us online starting April 6, 2018 www.choicetheoryonline.com

Yours in growing awareness


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Reality Therapy is a method of counseling developed by Dr. William Glasser in the 1960's. He first developed the therapy working with young women that were in a detention center in California.  As a young psychiatrist he found a process that seemed to help these young women. When most were released they became successful in the world and did not return to the detention center.

He went on and wrote the book Reality Therapy in 1965 and he soon sold over a million copies and it continues to sell today. Why is that? It is because it is an effective counseling / coaching method that really empowers people to take effective control of their own lives.

There are three premises that Dr. Glasser believed, when he met new clients

1. There was no need to probe at length for the problem. It was always an unsatisfying present relationship. Sometimes we do not recognize it as a client but eventually it nearly always is the case.

2. Since the problem is always in the present there is no need to spend an exhaustive amount of time exploring the past. That does not mean we do not look at the past but we want to use the past for successes that can come to the present.

3.  Avoid listening to people complain about their symptoms, the actions of other people and the world they live in, etc. Reality therapy emphasizes what the client can do now to help them and to improve the present relationship that is the problem.

This seems like a simple process but combined with the understanding of Choice Theory and after using it for more than 30 years I have helped hundreds maybe even thousands of people.  A lot takes place in the conversation and all this is taught in our training programs.

This is the only counseling training that I have ever studies that gives us a process for working with people. I have not included the process or the procedures that lead to change here but rather have included an understanding that we share when we use Reality  Therapy.

When we learn Choice Theory and we understand the how and why of human behavior and include in that a process of communication for working with others both professionally and personally we have a very successful training program that is taught all over the world.

If this interests you, we have two training dates coming up.

1. April 6 is our next online training program. For more information: www.choicetheoryonline.com
2. May 2, 3, 4 is our next in person in Riverview, New Brunswick. www.choicetheorytraining.com


Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton


I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Helping Financial Advisors (Heroes) Change Lives Forever!

LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz