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Done with Darkle

Sometimes on Saturday morning, my significant other and  I get up early and go out for breakfast before heading to the local market. This past Saturday we did just that. I got up and started thinking about what I would wear and I decided wear my white turtle- neck, because we would attend the basketball game later in the day and I would just have to add my booster club shirt.  I grabbed a vest out of my closet and put it over the turtle- neck and off we went. My goal was to be warm.

While we were waiting to order, one of the waitresses that we know came by and commented on my attire. She said: “ I love your vest, it is covered in bling!” Without missing a beat, I said: “ Thank-you, I just believe that you may as well sparkle!

She burst out laughing. I still do not know what was so funny and it played on my mind for a good part of the day. Did I believe what I said? Of course, I did, but why was it funny? It obviously touched her in a way that she could laugh and maybe it brightened her day.

But as I think about it, what is the opposite of sparkle? I decided to look up the opposite. It seems that the opposite of sparkle is “ darkle”. Now I am laughing! Darkle means to be cloudy or gloomy where as, sparkle means witty and bright. Which would you rather be, Sparkle or Darkle?

Dr. William Glasser always said that we should pay attention  when we laugh at something. There is a good possibility that we have learned something new.  Darkle was a new term to me!

The other point I want to make is we have a choice how we go about in our daily activities whether personally and or professionally. Do you sparkle or do you darkle? I hope you sparkle because it is way more fun and people will love you for it.



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Leap Year, 2016 Make it different!

How does February 29th affect you? Just another day you say?  As I consider writing this blog, I started thinking about this extra day we have this year. What are you doing with your extra day? Are you just unconsciously going through your habits of day to day life or are you going to take some time to reflect?

What if on this day, we set out our four-year goals?   Write them down. Visualize, or as Disney said: do some Imagineering.  Reflect on this. What does your life look like in four years on February 29, 2020?

Will we be still reading and listening to blogs on line?  How much smaller will our big world have become? Will you be totally disconnected from family and friends for online playing or will you set some goals to be totally present with your family and friends on a regular basis.

It is really important to think about where you envision yourself to be. Part of the fun is the journey of getting there. How will you evolve and change in the next four years? Will you be more consciously aware of your choices and your life?

What will you do in relation to your work, business or profession? Will you glide along with the status quo or will you take charge of your future? Will you grow yourself personally and professionally?

Just imagine how different your life could be on February 29th, 2020. I would love to hear from you on that date just to see what changes you have made come true for you.


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That Makes Me Crazy!

“ No one can make you feel inferior without your permission!” Eleanor D. Roosevelt

These words ring so true for me and I would take them a step further to say: no one can make you do or feel anything you do not want to do or feel!

There is a very common language that is used everywhere from day to day conversation to radio, TV news, in all forms of media. It is called the language of “external control”

One of the most common statements is this:  “ How did that make you feel?”  The minute we say something like this we are implying that something or someone who is external to us can control us.  The more accurate statement is “ how do you feel?”

There is a big difference in these two statements.  Think about it!  In the media everyday events happen that trigger strong emotions in some people but not in others.  We may feel a certain way but it is primarily based on our own life experiences and how we perceive them, not just because of the event that occurred.  How does that make you feel implies that there is an external event, which is causing you to feel a certain way. It implies an excuse.

When we ask, how do you feel about this it implies personal control. It is something coming from within you.  Think about your personal relationships. So often we hear, he/ she made me so mad. I challenge that. They did not make you mad. You chose to be mad. This is a hard one to swallow I know.

But if no one can make you feel inferior without your permission why would anyone be able to make you mad without your permission? To learn more about external versus internal control visit www.choicetheorytraining.com and sign up for my daily musings by mo.


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Execute Kitchen Renovations like a Business Plan

It has been three weeks now that we have been in the midst of kitchen renovations. This is something I have been planning to do for a very long time but feared having all the upset.

Guess what? It has not been all that bad and I think it is because we took the last year to plan it out.  It is like creating a business plan.

First we discussed our Vision of what a new kitchen could look like and what we wanted in that kitchen.  We knew we did not want to change the basic design because we like the design we had. We knew we wanted all drawers in the bottom of the cupboards for easy access and we knew we wanted an island with a place to sit. 

Then we discussed colors, type of wood, counter top , etc. Once we created our picture we were able to set out our mission.

Our mission was to find someone who could do the work for us in a timely and cost effective manner and give us what we wanted. Next came the goals. We would plan to visit “x” number of places to discuss what they could do for us. We would tell them what we wanted and ask for a quote.  We would also check out appliances that would match the picture that we had for our kitchen. 

We took our time and we talked with friends and suppliers and finally we made a choice and the renovations began. We had goals around that as well. We expected to be living without a kitchen for at least two weeks but would plan for three. Then we executed our plan.

As I look at this, I realize we have not experienced a lot of frustration because we took our time to become clear on what we wanted to move us forward. We did the research and asked questions about what are important to us and we sought references.

Did I say we planned a budget as well? Lots to think about and to be purposeful in doing. Would we spend as much time in our businesses or our entrepreneurial world to be focused and bring about the results that we want or do we just let things happen?

Our kitchen will be finished in a day or two. Then the plan will be to get rid of excess and give gently used items to others and we start putting our stuff into our new cupboards. Good planning can avoid a lot of heartache and frees you to build the relationships needed for a quality product.

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen Craig McIntosh



Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton


I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
Love what you do Maureen!less

Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

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LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz