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I have spent a lot of time recently speaking with some of my fellow toastmasters. Toastmasters is a great organization that is designed to help others develop their speaking and communication skills. There is research saying that fear of public speaking is greater than fear of dying.

How did we ever get that belief that we need to fear speaking in public. Was it taught to us in our homes? Did we learn about that in school? I suspect that school has a little to do with that. I know my own experience was worry of what my peers might think about me. Then the teacher was very critical of everything to do with the speech that we were doing for marks in our English class. Did it start here?

It seems to be a problem across many generations. In my own case, I was very shy and I ended up taking a job that required me to speak in public. When push came to shove, I did what it took and pushed through my comfort zone to speak in public. After about 6 years of public speaking I found Toastmasters.

At toastmasters, I learned about some annoying habits I had developed. It was most helpful. It was a safe place to practice and get honest feedback about my speaking. It was a turning point for me. I was successful, without toastmasters but I got bettertoastmasters.

Since being involved I have seen the shyest person in the world blossom into Speech Contest winners. We do not know our potential until we put ourselves out there. We must push through our discomfort to succeed. Why not do it at Toastmasters? We are not a group of stuffed shirts.. We are a group of caring, helpful individuals with programs designed to help you grow your speaking and leadership skills.

Today is my weekly toastmaster’s meeting and I was thinking about all I have learned. If this is something you are interested in, I am sure there is one in your neighborhood. If not, we now have online clubs. Check it out: www.toastmastsers.org.

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

 

Relationships are important and our Moncton Magic basketball team proved it over the weekend. They just returned home from a road trip where they lost 6 of 7 games. During that time they had a couple of injuries and as a result picked up some new players, who had not played with the team before.

They still played but the guys really did not know each other. Give them a week back home and an opportunity to work together as a team and learn to trust each other and they have a home game and win the game because they were more in sync and working together.

All teams work like this. In the workplace you may be working in a team environment, but what happens when one team member moves on and someone new is added to the team. Does the team move on expecting the new member to just know what to do? In the ideal situation, time is taken to build relationships and model the behavior and work you want to see and expect. It is done so in a friendly environment where workers want to do the best they can do. Be winners!

What I am describing is the quality work place. There are many kinds of managers. Some have said managers are there to manage the work while leaders lead people but I would like to say that the best case would be that managers be leaders. In other words Lead Managers as opposed to Boss Managers.

This is exactly how we run our training programs. We are there to facilitate your growth in a warm, friendly and caring environment. We help you grow in the way that you want to. We have fun while learning. By the way, the work place should be a place where you can have some fun as well.

If you want to learn more, join us February 5,6,7, 2019 for the first level of a five level certificate training program approved through William Glasser International.

www.choicetheorytraining.com

Can’t join us in person. Check out our training dates on line. www.choicetheoryonline.com

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

The more I teach the Online Choice Theory program the more I am impressed with the quality of learning of the student. Let me say this online program is not for everyone.

It is not for you if you are not self-motivated. In other words if you need to be involved with other people while learning the in person training may be better for you. But I am impressed so far with the level of integration by those that choose self-directed learning.

The online training program is set up in such a way that you meet with an instructor for about an hour, max two hours depending on numbers of participants, every two weeks for six weeks. By the ways the times can be adjusted to suit the needs of the students. In between the calls there are modules for you to complete.

Each module has creatively prepared content to learn the ideas that Dr. Glasser shared with the world. Each module has short videos that teach a concept. They are 1-3 minutes long and very well done.

It has been my experience that the tools provided are useable right from the start. So many of our participants tell us that they have used the tools and ideas in their work and in their family life and are happy with the results. It requires a shift in thinking but it is the kind of shift where you learn that only you are responsible for your life.

If your are not ready for real change then ignore this information. But if in 2019 you want real growth in relationship education, then join me in mid February when we star the next online Choice Theory Program. Learn more about it here: www.choicetheoryonline.com

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

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What comes first our thoughts or our feelings? This is a very common discussion in my world. It is like the chicken or the egg or at least it seems that way. We just cannot help how we feel at any given time but we can change how we feel indirectly.

Let me explain. If someone says something to me that is offensive in some way, I will feel a brief involuntary burst of pain. If I continue to focus on what was said and I tell myself stories about what was said, I will perpetuate my bad feelings..

If on the other hand, I understand that it was that person’s best attempt at the time to get something that they wanted and that it was about them, I can evaluate if there is anything I want and could do and then move on. People are always doing the best they can do with what they know.

What we focus on expands. There is a lot of truth in this quote. If your partner says something to you and you feel upset and then continue to focus on that all day, it gets bigger and bigger and you get more and more upset.

It is like road rage. Did you know that if you become extremely upset with someone who cuts you off in traffic or does some other misbehavior that it takes at least an hour and ½ to calm down. If something else happens while you are recovering from that event, and you tell yourself how terrible this day is by the end of the day you are feeling pretty miserable.

What would happen if you simple acknowledged the incident and let it go and focus on the many good things that could happen that day. Our minds are amazing and it is up to us to use them to our advantage. I reiterate, we may not be able to help how we feel at the time, but we can check our thinking and change those feelings.

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Heath J.

In my mid-30s, I made a life-changing decision to return to university. I sold my house and my car and moved to another country with my partner. It was all in pursuit of a dream career as a university professor. The problem? It made me miserable. Back in Canada for a few months, I sought out Maureen’s counsel. The decision was difficult for me: spend another two years studying something I disliked in a foreign country, but get closer to my dream job, or stop studying and pursue an alternate career path. Maureen never pressured, never judged. She taught me about choice theory, and helped me to identify and manage my insecurities. I found her to be a trustworthy, friendly voice of reason in a difficult, trying time.

I stopped my university studies, and a month later accepted an extremely fulfilling job as a college instructor and department head. I have the job I would have wanted, even if I had finished my degree. I feel happy, challenged and fulfilled. My personal relationships have also benefited from my certainty of choice and confidence. Maureen helped me find my way, and I am grateful for her wise counsel.

Heath J., Moncton

Barb

I thank you for all the opportunities and support you have given me over the many years of our friendship.

My relationship with you and Choice Choice theory has constantly guided and directed my life in a positive direction. The ability to change my thinking enriches my life each day. It helped me survive during the days of my deepest grief. You love your life and all those you have helped love you!

Barbara Rombough

Liette M. Collier

Choice Theory is a powerful life-changing tool. Its language has become a part of me and brings shared-awareness to my family and friends, clients, group participants, and work peers alike. Once we acknowledge the power of choice, that we own it, and that the impact of benefits and consequences alike are ours, we become not only empowered but also released from limiting beliefs and false boundaries.

Liette M. Collier

Robin Sauve

Maureen is a true expert in Choice Theory. She finds a way to apply relevant, practical applications of the theory into real life. Through coaching, Maureen invests a lot of time with her clients, making sure we consider all options. She is an excellent compassionate guide in this journey called life.

Robin Sauve, Marketing Manager

Wholesale & Specialty Products at Irving Oil

Carleen Glasser

Maureen is an outstanding faculty member of the William Glasser Institute! She has expertise in so many areas of the helping professions her contributions to the well-being and happiness of countless people of all ages is truly commendable. If only they could clone Maureen the world would be such a better place!

Carleen Glasser, CEO William Glasser, Inc.

Senior Faculty, Glasser Institute

Laura Prisc

I have been blessed to work with Maureen for several months, as my personal coach. She has skillfully facilitated my personal growth by asking the kinds of questions that require me to dig deep and get to the root of my beliefs, which sometimes hold me back! She provides very perceptive insights, and leads me through a process that drives me to more clearly define my wants, needs, and desires, along with actions I am committed to taking to move myself closer to the vision I hold for my future. I look forward to continuing this journey with Maureen, and highly recommend her as a teacher and coach. If you have the opportunity to work with her, do not hesitate for a second -- just say YES!less

Laura Prisc

Founder at Leadership & Life Potential, LLC

Owner, La Teraz

I have known Maureen as a counsellor, always really coaching for almost 20 years. I know very few people with the integrety and consistency that I have seen in the last two decades. Maureen has been teaching and guiding people in making choices for as long as I can remember with a professionalism and knowledge that is admired by other counselors in the city, including myself. When we host our own team building programs at La Teraz, even though I have training in the field and followed her courses in Choice Theory, I call her and her partner to facilitate the group's segment on Choice Theory. When I need to get honnest and reliable feedback, she is one of the primary people I consult in my own business to get the right questions asked to help me make my own choices to reach my ideal world in business. I not only accept to offer a recommendation I am honoured to refer her as one of the best in her field.less

Owner, La Teraz

Business Development Consultant

Rachelle Daigle

Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. 
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Rachelle Daigle

Business Development Consultant

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

Richard Chartrand CFP, CHS, CLU

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LA Teraz

I very much agree that this training is of utmost benefit to anyone in counselling and in business and sales, I will decline, as i believe it so beneficial that I went for the full certification last year. Maureen is an excellent trainer and I benefited so much with her support, not only in certification, but in all the previous years of knowing this amazing coach. Wishing everyone the best experience in choosing to open this new door to understanding human behavior and choices

LA Teraz